Hi folks and welcome to my website! I’m Sadie, a 40-year woman, divorced (albeit only married for less than a year) and have no kids.
On the flip side I have been blessed to have a successful career in the world of corporate banking spanning just over 20 years but now I think it’s time for a change…..
I’ve never considered myself the traditional banker or finance type of person but it was something that I fell into and happened to be extremely good?at?it.
I also never imagined that I would still be single, without a family of my own let alone?at?the ripe old age of 40 but sh*t happens and I’m learning how to accept and embrace my “unorthodox” lifestyle.
Who are we?
Growing up in Sydney, Australia I was content with the idea of being in a passionless, long term relationship. After 8 years my partner and I were unhappy and had outgrown each other but I stayed with him because I felt that was the inevitable thing to do.
Sure, I had dreams of getting married and having kids (who doesn’t?) but when I unexpectedly got the job offer of a lifetime which would move me to NYC – I had to take it and just have faith that all would work out.
That was 10 years ago. Needless to say, I never saw him again (and will never forget him) but I would never have thought in a million years that I would have ended up here.
At the time when I left Sydney it felt like I was making the biggest mistake of my life but, looking back it was the best thing that ever happened to me, as a woman in her prime both from a personal, physical perspective and from a career standpoint.
Follow our journey, together with K.D. Brighton – sister, confidante, author -? as I continue to navigate the ups and downs into the next decade!
Why are we here?
NYC is a wonderful, enigmatic, energetic and amazing place to live but it can be unforgiving and brutal?at?times. That being said I would not have lived the last 10 years of my life any other way.
Years of pressure from society, peers and family (not immediate family thank goodness) led me to believe that in order for me to be successful or be accepted, I needed to go to university, get a degree, get a good job, find love, get married, buy a big house and have kids all by the age of 30-35.
Nothing would have made me happier – so I thought.
I want to show others that this is a misconception and I am living proof that you can have a wonderful life without ticking all the boxes in a “conventional” way.
I want to help and empower other women to show that it is totally OK not to follow everyone else or live by anyone else’s code but your own and be happy doing it.
Don’t get me wrong, I am by no means “anti” relationship or against kids – if you find it and are happy then awesome, but I believe there shouldn’t be any unnecessary, additional pressure to find it?at?the cost of your own happiness.
No spinsters just slayers!
Have you ever felt a bit out of place?
Or feel like others judge you for not being in a relationship?at?”your age”?
Perhaps feel ashamed for having a failed marriage?
Think that you’ll never find love again?
Ever wondered what it really is like to turn 40?
Well, you are in luck because I’m here to tell you there are no “spinsters” here – just slayers. You can have what you want and more!
You can absolutely live your best life no matter what age or marital status! I want to help and empower other women to understand that it is totally OK not to follow everyone else or live by anyone else’s code except your own and be happy doing it.
Sure it’s been a bumpy and challenging ride but as I said before, I wouldn’t change any of it. If anything, it has made me a stronger, smarter and happier woman.
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.
All the best,
Sadie Shelton & K.D. Brighton?